Recently, there was some bruhaha about sexual abuse allegations in the Diocese of Marquette in the state of Illinois. This was not a shock or surprise, how sad is that?! Headlines like these cover the pages of newspapers, and the fact that it happens ALL THE TIME should be shocking. We should be angry, and yet, we pretend those anointed to serve in the Church could not possibly partake in such things!
Well, the bottom line is, it happens! It keeps happening! Are people actually even aware of the depths this goes? In 2023, the Attorney General of Illinois released a shocking report about abuse by Catholic Clergy in the State of Illinois. Names were revealed and survivors told their stories! Such a sad business. And this goes far from just Illinois…
What happens if it is your child? How do you heal? How do you move on from it?!
There are many supports available now for families who want to relocate, move on, and finally heal.
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Resources and Guidance
If you or your child has ever been a victim in circumstances such as clergy abuse, the feeling of getting out, getting away, must be overwhelming. One of the most valuable steps you can take is to protect and try to heal. This trauma you and your family have been through, combined with the pain and the emotional roller coaster…well…navigating can be hard.
First, you have to go through some personal barriers and decisions that are necessary but heartbreaking. But clear your head a bit and take it step by step.
Why You Need an Abuse Lawyer
As believers, we learn to forgive; that’s true. But real forgiveness only follows when we first embrace accountability. Accepting responsibility matters deeply, and to make that possible, justice must come first.
When you are in this emotional state and perhaps reliving atrocities you suffered or your child suffered at the hands of your Church leaders, such as it was with the Marquette clergy abuse allegations, you need support. It is absolutely crucial that you have someone experienced and knowledgeable to help you navigate legal proceedings and how you can pursue any compensation matters, or how to hold your abuser accountable.
Counselling and other support will also be necessary to help understand how the Church handled these things in the past and how important it is to make sure, going forward, things are safer. It seems ridiculous that we have to practically say… just do not do that… it is wrong, it is harmful, and these are people who have trusted you and you have left marks on them that they may never overcome!
I think some of the hardest things you might deal with are why the Church just moved them somewhere else to continue their abusive ways! In any case, once you have someone who can give you trustworthy advice and advise you, you might feel a bit vindicated and feel healthy enough to move on.
Moving Can Take Its Toll
Having been through so much trauma, relocation isn’t just physical but emotional. To just pick up and leave people and places you love is not easy, but a new start might be just what you need. The process will create anxiety and fear, but healing for yourself or that of your child will start the healing process by leaving a painful place. The effect may feel like a weight off your shoulders. Find the support you need to help through this.
Physically moving away from the environment surrounding the trauma can provide the feeling of safety and rebuilding trust in your old beliefs, or exploring new ones.
Here’s how to prepare for a smooth transition:
The Value of Your New Community and Healing
After putting distance between your family and the area where the abuse occurred, you might want to explore and build a network of new friends and professionals to guide your healing.
Conclusion
After choosing to move away, you may be hit with the full impact of what you or your child has been through. I encourage those who need it, seek out others, hear stories, tell your own, and maybe restore your faith in humanity and maybe even find your higher power again.
Remember, it is not God’s fault. It is the sheep that stray far away from the flock that bring forth the suffering. Have faith.
Disclaimer:
This article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal or medical advice. If you or a loved one has experienced abuse, please consult a qualified attorney or mental health professional for personalized support and guidance.
